Self Esteem Personality

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Is there any connection between overeating, excess weight and psychological problems(low self esteem)? Apparently, there is.

You must have heard that problems with one of the senses are usually compensated for through increased sensitivity of other senses or organs. For example, persons that had lost their hearing may enjoy particularly acute eyesight or the sense of smell.

That’s physiology at work. Lack of information from one of the sensory organs may be compensated for through additional input from the rest of them. The same may be said about basic human needs: insufficient satisfaction of a particular need may be subconsciously balanced by enhanced satisfaction of other needs.

And what exactly are those needs anyway? Love and sex (feeling alive, striving to live longer and enjoy oneself), food (the means to maintain life), safety, security and stability (life preservation, confidence about the future) and a few others. Just as in previous examples, an unmet want may be compensated for with a growing desire to satisfy some other one.

Love and sex are fairly complicated since these needs involve other people. As a result, we may not receive enough of what we need or receive not quite what we want and this can affect our feelings of self esteem.The feeling of stability and confidence in this ever changing world may not always be available either.

However, there is always the need to eat! Now, how do we satisfy that particular craving? Here, thank God, we have more of a final say in the matter and face no particular handicaps answering the call. We also begin to use food to substitute for pleasure, stability and all other things we come up short on.

That includes our longing for tenderness, love and care because food and love are somewhat connected for us, ever since childhood. Breastfeeding was nothing if not a show of care, safety, love, tenderness, etc., so at stressful moments we subconsciously long to relive that carefree, problem-free feeling we have all experienced as infants while suckling on our mothers’ breasts.

So we start eating. We eat to feel good. We hope that every new morsel will bring us closer to that feeling of calm and satisfaction we had known as young children. We may even find what we are looking for – for a time. For a short enough time.

Maybe it’s finally time to grow up, wise up and stop compensating with food for what we are missing otherwise? Because food does not really solve anything; on the contrary, it ads up to our worries – about excess weight and loss of attractiveness and good looks and can also contribute to feelings of low self esteem.

It is very important for a woman to feel attractive. Attractive in the eyes of that loved one, self, and just about anyone around. Self esteem results from feeling attractive to others.

Of course, people are mostly judged on their personal qualities, such as charm, intellect, sense of humor, etc. However, all of those only work with people we know. Yet, you want to impress everyone! Yes, you want to see those stares of admiration and feel beautiful, desirable and sexy, increasing your feelings of self esteem. Excess weight doesn’t help much with any of that, not by a long shot. Even people you know would appreciate you better if your charm and wit went hand in hand with beauty and fitness.

What is particularly sad is that excess weight may affect a woman’s self esteem in general. When pounds go up, self-confidence and self esteem go down, and once the self esteem drops, it becomes more and more difficult for your personality to showcase itself in the best possible light. Feeling timid, tense and whatnot hardly helps push your stock up in the eyes of others – and one’s self-esteem is greatly diminished.

If a woman likes herself no more, over time, people around her become less and less enthusiastic about her as well. It’s only natural. How can you expect others to like and accept you if you do not like or accept yourself – if you have low self esteem? This is hardly possible.

Sometimes this lack of self-assuredness may project itself visually. Slumped shoulders, tension, tightness, timidity and closed posture do not make for a very attractive portrait, do they?Muscle tension also affects blood circulation, energy levels and metabolism.

Our looks do a good job of telling people around us how we feel inside. Few would want to socialize with a person that appears to be downbeat. Dealing with a confident and joyful person with high self esteem helps us feel more energetic and joyful ourselves while in the presence of someone who is depressed and worried what rubs off on us is his or her negativity. For this reason, people are attracted to those who appear liberated, cheerful and sexy.

So, if you want the people you like to be willing to socialize with you, you must feel more positive yourself. You must carry a charge of positive energy. You must learn to like yourself and your self esteem will increase. This sweet smell of the energy of love will spread around, to be picked up by others who will want to be with you. You know it from your own experience that people and in particular, women, need love. Love is a staple for a woman and when she feels loved, her own self-esteem increases exponentially.. When you learn to truly love yourself, you will know how to love and enjoy others – rather than envy their youth and slim figures. You will feel joyous discovering that there are other beautiful people out there beside yourself.

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Dmitry Trackin -Author, researcher, practitioner. Health and nutrition consultant with over 17 years of experience. Specializing in weight management, sports nutrition and training, disease prevention. His innovative weight loss methods helped thousands of men and women boost their health, energy, and metabolism!

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